A growing body of research is challenging the idea that a lavish wedding sets the tone for a successful marriage. According to a study by economists Andrew Francis-Tan and Hugo Mialon from Emory University, couples who spend more on their weddings face a higher risk of divorce than those who choose more modest celebrations.
Data from over 3,000 married Americans
The study, published in 2015, analyzed survey data from more than 3,000 people in the United States who were either currently married or had been married in the past. The findings pointed to a noticeable trend: higher wedding costs were associated with a greater likelihood of marital breakdown.
Specifically, couples who spent more than $20,000 on their wedding had a significantly higher chance of divorce than those who spent less. On the other hand, couples who reported lower spending—on both the wedding and the engagement ring—showed lower divorce rates.
Financial stress and misplaced priorities
The study’s authors offered two main explanations. First, financial stress. Couples who take on substantial debt for a one-day event may carry that burden into their marriage, creating ongoing pressure. “Throwing a lavish wedding might look glamorous in the photos,” the article notes, “but if it leaves a couple deep in debt or straining their finances, that pressure can carry over into the marriage itself.”
Second, the researchers suggested that an emphasis on the material aspects of the event—such as extravagant décor, designer attire, and expensive venues—might take attention away from the relationship itself. According to the article, “when more attention goes to the party than the partnership, that connection may weaken over time.”
Younger couples turn to simpler ceremonies
In response to these findings and rising awareness about the long-term implications of wedding-related debt, many younger couples are opting for low-cost alternatives. Small ceremonies, backyard gatherings, and courthouse weddings are becoming more common as people focus on meaningful moments rather than lavish displays.
“There’s a growing movement,” the article states, “to scale back wedding costs and focus on the meaningful moments.” It adds, “a wedding is just one day—but a marriage is a lifetime of shared experiences, challenges, and growth.”
Spend wisely, love deeply
The article concludes by reinforcing the central message of the study: “celebrating love shouldn’t mean sacrificing stability.” It encourages couples to consider investing more in their relationship than in the celebration, noting that the best return may come from starting a marriage on solid financial ground, not from how much was spent on the wedding day.
The original study and its findings continue to prompt discussions about how couples approach weddings, and how early financial decisions can shape long-term outcomes.
